Today, we will see how to express your love language and maintain a good relationship with your mate.
This blog covers the practical ways which were suggested in the book"The Five Love Languages" by Gary Chapman.
I had gained more knowledge about relationship and best advices to maintain a good relationship with the partner.
Let's dive right in:
Love is not just the three words"I LOVE YOU"
Love is more than those sentiments and touchy feelings.
When you are in love with someone, you will have high energy to do whatever your loved ones may ask.
But After some time, this impact or energy from you will be decreased.
And it doesn't mean that your affection towards your lover is becoming weak.
No, Not like that! The author says that the first two years of love are called the Inlove Experience.
During these 2 years, you will be more romantic and you would have the power to do anything else that your lover asks you to do.
Even you will be amazed to see that these things were ever done before by you, But it is done because of your LOVE.
The next stage is the real love you feel.
Your excitement will be limited. This is the time where you will be in a doubtful state.
If you had ever faced these kinds of experiences, and you have to maintain your love life in a great way.
Then this blog will help you in this situation.
Even if you are not in love with someone, you could also read this as it will be helpful in your Future.
The author says that these five love languages help you to build and carry your loveable ones without any problems.
Have you ever expressed your love in many ways like gifting some kind of things, surprising them, etc... and felt that your lover is never satisfied with these things?
Then there is a misunderstanding between you and your lover.
Because you will express your love in your way of language, but your lover will be expecting their type of language.
When these two languages are different, you will be misunderstood.
And one more thing, here language is not what you speak, it is the way you express or accept love.
In your case, If both of your languages are different, Then find out the language which your lover likes.
Choose one of the languages from these five languages that your lover likes and be strongly bonded with your lover for your entire lifetime.
FIVE LOVE LANGUAGES:
Words Of Affirmation:
If your partner loves this type of language and if you gift something or do something interesting, it will not be liked by them.
They just need some magical words from your mouth instead of gifts, surprises, etc...
They simply need complementation or they just want you to express your love in words.
For example, if your sweetheart prepares some dishes for you, taste them and give good complementation to them like " This dish is pretty good to taste baby!"
They would be very happy to hear these words from you.
But don't ever flatter, it will not show your true love. And if you want to know how to win people to your way of thinking then check out this: Influencing People Is Not Rocket Science! Learn Them Now!
So, when they love this type of language then apply this secret of talking to them to express your love.
Give genuine compliments that will make them feel, that you are their World!
Quality Time:
The one who has this language as the primary love language needs to spend time with you.
Simply, they just want you to be with them.
You can make a face-to-face interaction and spend quality time with your partner.
Don't ever say that you have been in the home and my spouse is not interested in me.
Your presence is not a must, your interactions are what they want.
They will be not thinking about money etc...They just want quality time and conversations with you.
If you don't have time to interact with them.
Just try to spend at least 10 minutes to make them happy.
But during this time, don't ever watch TV or use your mobile. Instead, deeply involved in the conversation.
And if you're using your mobile too much instead of spending time with your family check out this to control your mobile usage: Your Phone Vs Your Life!
Receiving Gifts:
The one whose primary language is this, they want Gifts from you.
When I say gifts, don't think of expensive items.
Even they will become very happy when you give them small, inexpensive things.
Because they want to have these gifts to remember some of the special days in their life like anniversary, wedding day, birthday, etc...
On seeing these gifts, they will be very happy to recall their past love life.
Acts Of Service:
The people who love this language, want you to do something for them.
Like taking them to shopping malls, beaches, parks, theatre, etc...
They expect you to express your love to them by doing activities which are liked by them.
Simply they need a feel of care from you.
You need to do something or take them somewhere to express your love.
Physical Touch:
The person who loves this language will be expecting you to grab their hands or hug them to express your love.
Even we had felt more comfortable in our childhood when our mom is holding us in their hands.
One more thing is that children are the only ones who have received these five languages in equal proportion.
As they grow up, they took one specific language as their love language, which makes them more comfortable.
Conclusion:
You have to prioritise your love language based on your relationship.
By this, you could find the love language of you and your mate.
If you noticed what is the type of love language that your lovable one's use, and found that your and your lover's language is different.
Try to express your love in their love language instead of expressing it in your love language.
Love is the most beautiful feeling which could be experienced in your lifetime.
These love languages make your mate fall in love with you and both of you could embark on your love journey.
This book will create a meaningful, genuine, long-lasting relationship for you.
Love is not a noun, it's a verb
It is full of action!
In this materialistic age, true love is disappearing from our life. Most of the love we receive from others and express others is superficial.
Finally, find the type of language that your mate likes and express your love.
If you follow any other way of expressing your love, let me know in the comment section below.
See you in the next blog, until spread love and stay connected❣️