Hi all, Today we are going to explore, how to attract and influence people by following the ideas given in the book "How to win friends and influence people" by Dale Carnegie.
Here, you will get to know about the influencing skills which helps you to influence people positively and get what you want.
Because of reading this book, I had gained core knowledge about communication skills and it's importance.
Well if you are technically strong and had low communication skills, the probability of getting a job or conveying your thoughts and ideas to others will be ignored!
The main ideas were explained Briefly in this book.
But I'll try to tell Short and Crisp with Rules to Remember. Let's get started...
1) Criticism is Cruel:
Don't criticize anyone even if they have committed a mistake, Instead, the Author Suggests understanding their situation.
Simply Forgive them now. They'll Repay it Tomorrow 😃
Rule to Remember: Don't Criticize, Condemn, or Complain
2)Appreciation is the Key to deal with people:
As Humans are emotional Creatures, we are expecting Appreciation for the work we did.
Wherever it may be In the Office, School, College, etc...
Everybody in the World has a thirst for being recognised.
So Undoubtedly Throw away your Ego and Honestly Appreciate the People Around You if they have done something good.
Rule to Remember: Give honest and sincere appreciation
3)Influencing People (Everybody needs this 👇):
To influence people, talk about what they want and how to get it.
But in reality, we always think and Talk about ourselves, Am I Correct?
Whereas the author suggests talking about the other person's interest.
So that you could involve in a better conversation that will create a good reputation for you.
Rule to Remember: Arouse in the other person an eagerness to talk with you
4)How to make people Like you instantly:
If we want to make friends, let us put ourselves out to do things for other people.
To become very favorite with a person, Greet people with admiration Enthusiasm.
But Don't ever try to act, instead Be Grateful to the people.
Rule to Remember: Become genuinely interested in other people.
5)The Better way to give a First and best Impression:
Encouragement is a much more effective action than punishment.
Just encourage others if they have done something really good, But never Flatter.
"SMILE PLEASE "(This the one and only way to make a good impression)
A-Pro tip for you: Always Be aware of your body language, It will present you as a Confident personality.
Avoid these mistakes like Poor stance, Avoiding eye contact, etc...Sorry this is Out of topic but it will be definitely Beneficial for you 😃
6)Simple thing we can do to attract people:
After reading this you would think like "What ? how I don't know this till now?".It is that simple.
Try to remember and pronounce other people's names.
we can influence others by simply calling their full name.
But don't ever misspell, it will create a bad image on you.
Pro tip: If you don't know someone's name simply ask them to spell.
(You think it is funny, This will be useful in such situations)
7)How to become good at conversation:
If you want to be a good conversationalist, be an attentive listener.
Encourage others to talk about themselves and their accomplishments.
"The most dangerous person is the one who listens, thinks, and observes"
-Bruce Lee
Rule to Remember: To be interesting, be interested.
8)How to interest people:
The royal road to a person's heart is to talk about the things he or she treasures the most.
Talking in terms of another person's interest pays off for both parties.
According to my opinion, The core idea in this chapter is to talk about other people's interests and think from their point of view.
Simply teleport into the other person and act accordingly.
9)Do this to present yourselves as an attractive personality:
Admire the other people.
For instance, If a person wore good clothes according to a situation, and if you notice it, Genuinely say "Hey! Today you look good in this dress"
Always make other people feel more important.
Rule to Remember: Make other people feel more important -Do it sincerely.
10)You can't win an argument:
If anyone is arguing with you, Give your opponent a chance to talk.
Let them finish by throwing all their burden as words on you.
DO NOT DEFEND, RESIST OR DEBATE.
"Hatred is never ended by hatred but by love"
-Buddha
Rule to Remember: The only way to get the best of an argument is to avoid it.
As a whole, I think that the above idea is applicable and has an immense effect on our relationship.
CONCLUSION:
Our Brain has the tendency to acquire knowledge for a limited time, So I don't want to take your time.
And which concept attracts you from this Book?
Let me know your Interest in the comment section below.
Meet you in the Next blog, Until Spread positivity and Stay Connected ❣️